I’ve found that most people hang on tight to their third serious relationship.
The first can be wrong for so many understandable reasons.
Too young, thought you should, everyone else was.
The second fails and you start to wonder if something is wrong with you.
The third you have to make work or you know for sure it is you that’s the problem.
Breaking your heart and what that does to you is similar.
Now you don’t break your heart with every relationship
And relationships aren’t the only things that break your heart.
But each break erodes your surety of how things are.
It strips away a part of yourself and who you think you are.
What we imagined the world to be and what it really is unfolds in these breaks.
And that’s not a bad thing….
I like to think of these breaks as moving between different chambers of the heart.
Each chamber is moved through with each break.
Those of us that get to the fourth chamber, the last chamber,
Oh boy are we in a different realm.
There is nothing and everything to lose
The bar lifts and drops all at the same time.
You’ve been placed in a realm where you come to understand
a few fundamental things about yourself.
Firstly, you recognize you could love a lot of people
I mean have full blown lifelong happy as you could ever be relationships with them.
It is no longer an only with this special person deal.
You also know for sure it is in fact you that is the problem
and if you can’t make it with this person you’ll never make it with anyone.
Not because there is anything wrong with you
But because you don’t want it enough.
And finally, the only siren’s call that is tempting you away
Is not another person,
but the choice to be
Yeah, that’s the fourth chamber of the heart.
Part 2 of a 3 part piece of Prose
The 1st is here: https://elsaholland.com/2014/09/28/the-four-chambers-of-the-heart-part-1/
The 3rd is here: https://elsaholland.com/2014/09/18/the-four-chambers-of-the-heart-part-3/
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